So, what is counselling? Another super important question to be asking! We all have some vague idea of what it might be from TV or movies or from what our friends may have experienced, but when you start looking into it, it can become really overwhelming.
There are many different models of counselling you may come across in your search, and two of the leading ones are person centred and cognitive behavioural therapy. I like to mix and match these depending on your individual needs – because everyone is different.
Person Centred Therapy is one of the most well known and popular approaches to counselling and is based on a deep respect for the person by the therapist, and the belief that the relationship between the counsellor and the client is of primary importance.
It is a non-directive approach in that it is you, the client who knows what hurts, you are the expert in your own life, and it is you who can begin your healing process within the real safety of the therapeutic relationship.
My role as your counsellor is to walk alongside you whilst you explore some of the things your might be struggling with. I work with you to help you find solutions that allow you to move forward in a happier and healthier way.
The essential qualities which I believe create a safe, supportive and challenging therapeutic environment include:
A profound acceptance of you, no matter what.
A desire to understand you and how you have experienced the world and your life.
A commitment to being genuine in our relationship - real, transparent, open and honest.
Person centred therapy is helpful for all kinds of different struggles including depression, anxiety, grief, relationship issues, trauma, stress, bullying and many more.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
CBT is a talking therapy which focuses on how your thoughts, beliefs and attitudes affect your feelings and your behaviour. It teaches you coping skills for dealing with different problems you may be experiencing.
It combines cognitive therapy (examining the things you think) and behaviour therapy (examining the things you do). The way we think about situations affects the way we feel and behave. If we view a situation negatively, we may experience negative emotions and feelings which lead us to act in an unhelpful way.
I will help you identify and challenge any negative thinking patterns you may have developed over the years so you can deal with situations better and respond to life’s challenges in a more positive way.
CBT can be helpful for depression, anxiety, health anxiety, OCD, stress, phobias, self esteem, obsessions, eating disorders and addiction.
I also work with young people from the age of 12 years old. Young people often struggle to express themselves or understand what specific emotions they are feeling. They may be having problems with friends, family or school, they could be anxious, depressed, angry or scared and need to talk to someone, but find it difficult to talk to the people they know.
I use creative therapeutic techniques to engage them with therapy, allowing them to process any difficult events and experiences in a healthier way without the fear of judgement. Both CBT and person centred counselling are great for young people and together we’ll untangle the confusion and find a happier way forward.